Happy Birthday, Cowgirl!

We celebrated Amy's 10th birthday this past weekend with a sleepover, and last weekend with a horse! So far in our family, 10 has been a milestone birthday.

Soleil, our new horse!

Amy did a great job leading her into the "scary" barn.

Amy made sure to give her horse a bath before her party. She spent more time grooming Soleil than she did herself!

Emily and her friends, Kate and Rose talking about the horses, playing to be horses, and trying to stay out of the way of horses.

Evan loves helping with the horses too! (We're boarding 3 others for a little while; lots of fun!)

A happy cowgirl!

Enjoying Life in the Country

Driving new toys...

Baking cakes...

Decorating cakes...(With a neighbor's flowers)

Painting fences...

Shooting squirrels...

More For Me!

Yesterday I received my co-op order and everyone in our group wanted to know, "What's in the tube?" It was rhubarb! I know, it's funny to some to have to order rhubarb, but I can't find it here even though it's rhubarb season. I keep looking for it at Farmers market, but to no avail. And the stuff they're selling at the grocery store is pretty pathetic looking. But my tube had several pounds of lovely ruby red rhubarb, perfect for pie!

I'm embarrassed to say that 10 years ago, I watched a few episodes of Oprah. The only redeeming thing about those hours wasted was the cooking show. I frantically scribbled down the recipes and I'm so glad I did. There were two recipes that were gold. One was a soup recipe that is aptly named Summer in A Bowl. It's delicious! The other was a recipe for Strawberry Rhubarb Pie. I've made it simpler, but still yummy by substituting a streusel top for the two- crust version .

Strawberry Rhubarb Pie

4 cups rhubarb, sliced

2 cups strawberries, sliced

1/2 Tablespoon lemon zest

1 teaspoon vanilla

1 cup sugar

1/3 cup flour

Mix together and put in a pie plate. Add streusel topping. Bake at 350 for 45 minutes or until the top is golden brown, and the pie filling is bubbly.

Topping

1/4 cup flour

1/3 cup cold butter

3/4 cup brown sugar

1/2 tsp. cinnamon

1 cup oats

Toss together with your fingers until crumbly. Add to the top of your pie and gently press down.

When I made this last month from our co-op order, Evan and Amy and I loved it. (Poor Emily is allergic to strawberries.) Evan declared it was the best pie he'd ever eaten. He takes after his Papa who also loves Rhubarb pie. But Sean, who I was hoping to impress, said he could take it or LEAVE it! Evan and I looked at each other and smiled. I know we were both thinking, "If dad doesn't want it, then there's more for me!"

Modern Art

My parents went to the Modern Art museum in SFO. I loved these pictures they took of themselves next to paintings they matched.

Before...

Evan's "pink" bathroom. Eventually, it will be replaced with a wild African Safari theme. We already bought the zebra stripe towels at Target and my mom brought some cheetah skin fabric to cover his window seat. We laugh that he got such a girly bathroom.

The girls room, which we promptly painted a lovely shade of pale pink. The rest of the house has very interesting and expensive Venetian Plaster on the walls. But for some reason the previous owner decided to paint over it in this room with Laker colors. Bizarre. The girls have a bathroom off their room too, but I don't have a picture of it.

Our bathroom. The toilet and tub are around the corner. It's huge! Apparently the original owner liked pink. The tile is high on Sean's list of things to improve.

This is the guest room. Our room looks pretty much the same.

The upstairs loft in between Evan's room and the girls room.

Evan's bed room.

The kitchen. It's so much bigger than our previous one. I love that. I'm also really enjoying the double wall oven that Sean bought me for a birthday present! The cabinets are really nicely made but it's a bit too much oak for me. Painting them an antique white and adding some hardware is high on my list of improvements.

The mud room. There is so much storage here, it's really nice. And there is a bathroom off the mudroom. It's the only one with a functioning toilet. So realistically, no matter how much we dislike the pink bathrooms, or the oak cabinets, they will have to wait. Getting things up and running will probably take the better part of a year.

The dining room. This is my favorite room in the house. I love the tall windows, the Spanish tile and the color of the walls.

Our two story fire place in the middle of the living room.

Looking down from the loft on the fireplace. I really like that the loft is open with a half wall.

The view from our back porch looking out at the back pastures. The little building in the distance is a shade structure of sorts for horses. The fence behind it is our property line.

Our back porch. Emily has been having a lot of fun playing here. And Evan is having a lot of fun shooting squirrels from here.

It will be a while before I post any after pictures. Things are still pretty disorganized. But we're having lots of fun while we work hard!

A Blessing

One of the first things people notice when they come over to our new house is what they hear. If you stand still outside, all you can hear are the birds. We are in a valley that muffles the noise of the world. It is one of the first things we noticed too. It was such a contrast to where we lived before. And it's one of the reasons we loved this house and property.

Today Al Mohler writes about noise and children. It's a very interesting article.

"Our culture now assumes noise and the constant availability of music, electronic chatter, and entertainment. In many homes, there is virtually no silence -- at least during waking hours. In some homes, family members live in isolated environments of independent sound, with iPods, televisions, radios, and any number of other technologies providing a customized experience of noise.

The life of the mind and the shaping of the soul require the ability to hear, recognize, and understand what would be lost in a cacophony of sound. "

Read the whole article here.

It reminded me again what a gift from God this house is for our family. We took the kids to see the movie UP (very good, by the way) and while the kids liked it, they had their hands over their ears almost the whole time. I didn't realize how sensitive they are to noise. It was so loud for them. However, I would rather it be a bit of a shock for them to be in a movie theater, than a shock for them to be outside, where all they could hear would be the birds.

In the article he makes a quote about the quietness needed for children to watch a lady bird crawl up a leaf. I laughed because just last week, Emily and her friends sat for 15 minutes watching a snail move. They were fascinated watching it leave a trail across the driveway.

We still have so much work to make this house our home. Boxes need to be unpacked, carpet needs to be replaced, toilets need to be installed, and pictures need to be hung. But I am glad to be reminded of another reason why this move and this house are a blessing.

Today it Became Real

Our new house!

We moved into our new house on April 13Th...But we slept that first week in our tent trailer. It was a fun adventure. We had the tent trailer in the garage and it was like a cave. We all slept really good. That was the fun part. It was also easier for the kids to transition because we were all together. But that wasn't the reason for the "camping". We didn't really own the house yet. And we didn't have water or electricity. That was the adventure part.

Escrow was delayed for a couple of weeks after we were told to hurry out of our old house. Meanwhile, the hot water got fixed. Yippee! And electricity was restored. Whoohoo! Then we found out about the acorns. 12 feet deep. Apparently because the house had been relatively unoccupied for the last 5 years the squirrels and blue jays had been having a field day with the vents on our roof.

Last week Sean fixed the last section of pipe leading from our kitchen sink. He emerged from the basement covered in acorn goo that had exploded on him. My friend Eileen was over and we had a good laugh. She was surprised I let him in the house. He fixed what TWO plumbers could not. And now I can wash more than 3 dishes at a time. He's my hero.

Today, I think I've finally reached the point where more boxes are out of the house unpacked, than in the house still packed. This is a huge milestone! To celebrate, I went to a friends house and helped her pack up her stuff so she can move.

But reality hit home today when we heard from the escrow company that all the loose details are finally wrapped up. I hung up the family portrait over the mantle. And now it feels real.

Looking up at the barn from the creek. Horses come next month.

When Emily Sneezes...

She lets out a big sigh, and says, "Whew, that was a big God bless you!"

It's really cute.

Status Report

Sitting... For a moment to catch my breath and let my legs rest.

Drinking...Raspberry Emergen-C. I'm loving this stuff. It's a great energy boost. And it makes drinking water easier.

Noting...How good God has been to us through this move. Sean "just happened" to take a two week vacation scheduled for the week after we move. My parents also "just happened" to take a vacation the week of our move. We didn't talk to each other about it, and didn't make any plans for going anywhere. Both my dad and Sean have a difficult time getting time off work with out planning well in advance.

Weighing...Whether I should go to bed and get some rest, or stay up and pack as much as possible. Because we have to leave the house for 3 days to fumigate (Yikes, we have termites!) I'm down to 6 real days (one of which is Easter) to pack up our house, attic, and garage. I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed.

Tired... From so much packing and lifting and moving boxes and furniture.

Thinking...We have too much stuff.

Wondering...If we will ever get all this stuff out of our house by the 13th!

Reading...The Rare Jewel of Christian Contentment by Jeremiah Burroughs very slowly a page at a time.

Recently finished...Um... packing 10 boxes?! I have not gotten much reading done this year. The Bible and the book above have been all I've had time for so far.

Also wondering...How much formal school I'll need to do with Evan and Amy over the summer to catch them up.


Needing... To get back into my exercise routine with the bike. I'm looking forward to getting everything set up at our new house. The basement has a great room that we'll be able to set up as a gym.


Not liking...The way my hands are feeling. They've gotten cut up and dried out because of all the cardboard boxes.


Feeling silly...For "killing" my husbands stick shift car so many times. He's taken over the van to drop off boxes and pick up needed supplies to and from his way to work.


On that note...I think I'll go pack some more boxes!

*I stole the idea of the status report from Leslie who took it from Lisa. I thought it was a great way to fit a little blogging in.

Wish I Could Go!

Association of Biblical Counselors Invites You on a Quest for More
2009 conference features first-ever meeting of the minds

We live in a broken world. The evidence is everywhere—broken marriages, broken families, broken hearts, broken people. In response, more and more people in the Christian community are exploring biblical counseling. Yet this growing interest brings new questions and fresh discussions about what biblical counseling really looks like. The landscape of biblical counseling is changing, thanks in part to the work of organizations like the Association of Biblical Counselors (ABC). For anyone interested in these exciting new developments, ABC is pleased to announce the 2009 conference to be held May 14-16 in Fort Worth, Texas. The theme of this year’s event is “A Quest for More,” based on the book by keynote speaker Paul Tripp, one of the most dynamic speakers in biblical counseling today.

“I am overwhelmed with excitement over this year’s conference for several reasons,” says ABC President Jeremy Lelek. “On opening night, we are going to have four of the top scholars from various counseling ‘camps,’ including the American Association of Christian Counselors, Christian Counseling Educational Foundation, and the National Association of Nouthetic Counselors, who will discuss emerging trends in biblical counseling as well as distinctions between the various schools of thought. This is a truly groundbreaking event!” Residents of Dallas/Ft. Worth who are not attending the conference may purchase tickets to this exciting Thursday night-only event. The weekend will also include a tribute to special guest Elisabeth Elliot for her pioneering work in South America and across the world.

Lelek emphasizes that this event is not just for licensed counselors. These sessions are for counselors, pastors, and laity. Hurting people and those struggling to overcome certain issues in their lives are encouraged to attend. The conference features over twenty-five elective sessions with topics ranging from marriage and sexual addiction to spiritual warfare and crisis intervention. A sampling of titles includes:

· Living a Pure Life in a Sexualized Culture: Overcoming Lust, Understanding Your Enemy, and Living a Life of Repentance
· Soul Care: Starting a Biblical Counseling Ministry in Your Local Church
· Learning to Think Like a Christian
· The God Empowered Wife (for women only)
· Biblical Counseling with Adult Victims of Childhood Trauma
· When Suffering People Need to Know “Why?”

In addition, conference attendees will encounter opportunities to discover reliable referral services, network with like-minded believers, receive nationally approved Continuing Education Units, and be encouraged in their own lives and counseling ministries.

For more information about the conference and the many training opportunities offered through ABC, visit http://www.christiancounseling.com/.

Moving On

I'm sorry that I haven't blogged much over the past month. Honestly, I didn't really know what to write about. Our camera is being finicky and won't let me download pictures to the computer, so I didn't even have that to share with you.

However, we accepted an offer on our house today! Lord willing, everything will go through with the house we've put an offer on, and we'll be moving mid April. Our realtor expects there to be some delays since the banks are so inundated with loan applications these days. So we'll see, but God is opening doors for this move in many ways.

When I can figure out my camera, I'll post pictures.

My House Has Never Looked So Clean

We are selling our house! Sean and I have spent the last 3 days cleaning and de-cluttering to put our house on the market. We're hoping to move to a place with some property near by. I don't have any pictures, but the pile of boxes in the garage is pretty comical. If you've seen my house before, you wouldn't recognize it now.

If the move doesn't work out, at least all the little projects will be done. And our house will have gotten a major spring cleaning! And if we move, I'm thinking some of these boxes, especially the ones labeled "Random Clutter" may just get tossed!

French Cooking

The kids want to learn about French cooking this year. So after perusing through a few cookbooks, here is the list of what we'll make this year, Lord willing.

Jan - Soups
Feb - Baguette
March - Chicken
April - Eggs
May - Fish
June - Cake
July - Cherry Clafoutis
Aug - Ratatouille
Sept - Croissants
Oct - Crepes
Nov - Cheese (not to make, but to try)
December - Buche De Noel

I've put these down more for myself than anything else. It seems this blog is a great way to store information like this! But, if you have any recipes that fit these categories and are French in origin, I'd love to see them.

What I Discovered Today

I really don't feel so good after I eat chocolate cake. When I spend an hour cycling like a mad woman at the gym, however, I feel terrific. But, I like chocolate cake much more than I like exercise. And I make excuses why I need to eat cake, and excuses why I don't need to exercise!!!

Carrot Cake

My friend Jessica is doing a healthy recipe swap over at her blog. My newest "health" food craze is a sweetener that is much lower on the glycemic index. It's so low that diabetics can use it. In other words, you can eat it and it won't spike your blood sugar levels up and then crash them. Your body processes it more like a complex carbohydrate rather than a simple sugar.

It still wouldn't be great for you to eat tons and tons of it. (It's not a vegetable!) But you can have dessert once in awhile and not totally blow your diet or your health.

If you can't find Agave Nectar at Trader Joes or a local health food store (or want to buy in bulk at a lower price) try Amazon's subscribe and save program. I highly recommend it.

Here is one of our favorite recipes using this amazing sweetener. I made it for a friend's birthday and it was a big hit. It comes from the cookbook Baking with Agave Nectar by Ania Catalano.

Carrot Cake

3 cups finely grated carrots

1/2 cup raisins

1/2 cup unsweetened shredded coconut

1 cup pecans, chopped

2 cups spelt flour

2 teaspoons baking soda

1/2 teaspoon baking powder

2 teaspoons cinnamon

3/4 cup agave nectar

3 large eggs

1/2 cup canola oil

1 cup nonfat plain yogurt

2 teaspoons vanilla extract

Cream Cheese Frosting (recipe follows)

Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Grease and flour two 9 inch cake pans.

Mix together the carrots, raisins, coconut, and pecans in a large bowl. In a separate bowl, combine the flour, soda, baking powder, and cinnamon.

In a food processor, blend the agave nectar, eggs, canola oil, yogurt, and vanilla extract for about 1 minute. Add the egg mixture to the flour mixture and stir to blend. Add the carrot mixture and stir until combined. Pour the batter into the prepared pans and bake for 30-35 minutes, until a toothpick inserted into the centers of the layers comes out clean. Let cool in the pan, then invert onto a platter (or cake plate). Frost with Cream Cheese Frosting.

Cream Cheese Frosting

6 Tablespoons butter at room temperature

12 oz. cream cheese or low-fat Neufchatel cheese or combination of both

3/4 cup agave nectar

1/2 Tablespoon vanilla extract

Juice of 1/2 lemon

Using an electric mixer, cream together the butter and cream cheese. Add the agave nectar, vanilla extract, and lemon juice. Beat well until smooth and fluffy.

Keeping Track of the Miles

Last spring, I started taking a cycling class at our local gym. As it turns out, I really can only make the class once a week. But we have an exercise bike at home that I can use more frequently. Sean and I have started using it more lately. So inspired by Wendy, Lord willing, I'll post my miles on the bike on the side bar. I'm hoping that this helps keep me motivated to keep on spinning.

Books I Read in 2008

I've kept a running list on the sidebar of my blog of the books I've been reading this year. I wanted to keep the list, but not on my sidebar. So I've moved them to this post, with a little comment about what I liked and a short highlight about each one.

Future Grace by John Piper - I just finished reading this one a few days ago even thought I started it with Leslie in October. I'm glad I kept on reading it. Piper always gives me something to really think about. This time it was how to fight sin with greater enjoyment of God. Practical application was interwoven throughout the book and was particularly helpful.

Self-Image: How to Overcome Inferiority Judgments (Resources for Biblical Living) by Lou Priolo - This was actually just a little booklet. A very short, but practical read. Mr. Priolo is biblical counselor (meaning that his counsel comes from the word of God not secular psychology methods). The most helpful thing I gleaned from this booklet is how to see if the area in my life that I'm judging myself to be inadequate in is an inaccurate perception, an accurate perception, but not sinful, or an accurate perception that is sinful and requires a change in behavior.

The Story of Rolf and The Viking Bow by Allen French - I read this to my older kids as part of our history curriculum. We all loved it! It is an intriguing story that not only fit in well with our time period in history, but was a beautiful lesson on love and forgiveness as well.

Making Brothers and Sisters Best Friends by Sarah, Stephen, and Grace Mally -

This was another book that I read to the kids. Not only was it a helpful book for relationships, it was funny! The kids would beg me to read another chapter, they enjoyed it so much. We learned how to get to the root of the problem, how to see things from someone elses perspective and what it takes to build a friendship. With three writers, there were different perspectives to each chapter. And at the end of each was a quiz to help bring the concepts home. I would highly recommend it! I had to throw in this picture of Evan and Amy. It fits so well with the book.

Trusting God Even When Life Hurts by Jerry Bridges - This was the first book I had read by Jerry Bridges. I wish I'd read it a long time ago. It was so uplifting and encouraging. Mr. Bridges writes in a way that is easy to read even though he is dealing with tough concepts. I'm sure I'll come back and read it again. It was that good.

When Sinners Say "I Do": Discovering the Power of the Gospel for Marriage
by Dave Harvey - This was by far the best marriage book I've ever read. And I've read quite a few. Bringing every point back to the gospel and in such a compelling way, encouraged me and changed my perspective. What made this book different from so many books on marriage, was that the examples were not about the couple that starts out unhappy because of ... then puts ... into practice and is full of joy. Instead, the stories are about God being faithful, and what the faithfulness of people who love God looks like, lived out in marriages that aren't perfect. It was fresh, real, and made me literally rejoice in God's goodness to me every time I read a chapter.

A Tale of Two Sons: The Inside Story of a Father, His Sons, and a Shocking Murder by John MacArthur - Sean gave me this book for my birthday. I really enjoyed reading it. MacArthur gives historical and cultural information about this well known parable and then unpacks it verse by verse.

A Hunger for God: Desiring God Through Fasting and Prayer by John Piper - I read this book because I wanted to learn more about fasting. I not only learned more about the discipline, but was inspired to put it into practice more. It answered a lot of the questions that I had about fasting.

How Clean Is Your House? : Hundreds of Handy Tips to Make Your Home Sparkle by Aggie MacKenzie and Kim Woodburn - I got this book at the dollar store! I usually try to read at least one book on home management a year to help develop my domestic skills. This one was fun and had some good tips. The best one for me was to use thick black chemical resistant gloves for cleaning. I have a lot more "get up and go" when I use them.

Pleasing People: How Not to Be an Approval Junkie by Lou Priolo - I tend to find authors that I like and then read as much as I can that has been written by them. This year it was Piper and Priolo. This book was so applicable for me. Priolo really challenges your thinking about whether you are pleasing God or man and then offers counsel and hope. For a more detailed review see Tim Challies.

Faithful Women and Their Extraordinary God by Noel Piper - I read this on the recommendation of my friend Rachael. We share a love of books and she reads a lot of Piper too. She saw this on my shelf and encouraged me to read it. I'm glad I did. It is four short biographies of Christian women with a short commentary by Noel Piper (John Piper's wife). I'm always inspired by reading about the lives of others who have gone before me.

Dona Tomas: Discovering Authentic Mexican Cooking by Thomas Schnetz and Dona Savitsky - The kids wanted to learn about Mexican cooking this past year as part of our very long cooking education course. So I checked out several cookbooks from the library having to do with Mexican cooking and started reading. Dona Tomas is actually a restaurant that my sister says is good but a bit pricey. The cookbook was a fun read with fabulous pictures. (I like to read appealing cookbooks cover to cover like a book.) But it was the section on making tortillas that really inspired me. Out of our year, the tortillas were the biggest hit. We are now proud owners of a tortilla press and warmer, and make homemade tortillas often.

My Friend Flicka by Mary O'hara - I read this book to Amy. We enjoyed the story about a young boy and his horse. But it was reading this story that helped convince me that Amy should take horseback riding lessons. The story tells how a boy grows up and matures as he learns to take care of his colt Flicka. It is very moving story.

Honey for a Child's Heart by Gladys Hunt - This is a book about books. And more specifically about children's books. It contains chapters on what makes a great book, chapters that list books for various age levels and chapters that list classics as well as new books that are worth buying for your child's library. I had read this before, when Evan was little, but it's one worth going to again and again as your children get older and need guidance on what to read.

The Total Money Makeover: A Proven Plan for Financial Fitness by Dave Ramsey - I actually did a book review on this one. You can read it here.

So there you have it. My reading list from 2008. What's on tap for this next year? Well, the kids want to learn about French cooking this year and I've found a couple of good books from the library. Dave Ramsey says that you should read a book on finances once a year. Sean bought me a boxed set from Susie Orman. So I think I'll pick one of those. And I'd like to read a bit more fiction this year. I also have several Piper books on my shelf that I have yet to tackle, and I've started The Rare Jewel of Christian Contentment by Jeremiah Burroughs. That should keep me busy for a while!

I'd love to hear what you're reading or any recommendations you have.

Red Hats

My parents came down for a quick visit this weekend to see Amy perform with her choir. My mom brought down these red hats she found for a dollar. The girls loved them! They put them on at breakfast and Emily even picked out a red dress to wear to church so she could wear her red hat!

Win a Book or a Doll!

After a recommendation from my friend Leslie, I bought the book Mesi: A Girl 'n' Grace for Amy. She really enjoyed the book. Well, now you can win two new books from Pam Davis the author, Sydney Claire: A Girl ’n Grace in the 1960’s and Mesi’s Season of Change: A Friendship Story, by letting people know about this contest.

Here's how to win:

To win one of these dolls participants must submit a story about their best teachable grace moment with a child in their life to mystory@girlsngrace.com. They also must include the name or link to the blog that they read about the contest on. Pam Davis will read the entries and pick a winner.

To "win" the two new books, post about the contest on your blog, and then send the link from your blog post to ajennings@tbbmedia.com





Here are the official Rules:

• All individual entries must be submitted by December 17 to mystory@girlsngrace.com
• Participants must include a story about a teachable grace moment
• Stories will be 400 words or less
• All entries must include the name of the blog site on which they saw the contest posted
• Bloggers may enter their stories as well, but may not win both dolls
• All entries may be reprinted/reposted by Girls ‘n Grace and Authentic
• Entries should include preference of Sydney Clair or Mesi doll
• Pam Davis will pick the best story and the winner of the contest and notify the winner

Blogger participation

• Each blogger posting the contest will receive 1 copy of each of the fall releases once they forward the link to ajennings@tbbmedia.com
• The blog site with the most number of contest entries will receive one Girls ’n Grace doll to keep for themselves or turn around for another contest on their site
• Dolls will be shipped to arrive on December 23.
  

To learn more about the Girls 'n' Grace series go to their website girlsngrace.com.

Silly Quiz

Alicia did this quiz over at her blog. Since I haven't blogged about much of anything (for a whole month!) I did the quiz too. It is uncanny how much this describes me. But, I have learned to say no, I don't buy into the whole self-esteem bit, and my husband says I need a better sense of humor. Otherwise it's spot on.

You Are a Doris!





You are a Doris -- "I must help others."
Dorises are warm, concerned, nurturing, and sensitive to other people's needs.

How to Get Along with Me
* Tell me that you appreciate me. Be specific.
* Share fun times with me.
* Take an interest in my problems, though I will probably try to focus on yours.
* Let me know that I am important and special to you.
* Be gentle if you decide to criticize me.

In Intimate Relationships
* Reassure me that I am interesting to you.
* Reassure me often that you love me.
* Tell me I'm attractive and that you're glad to be seen with me.

What I Like About Being a Doris
* being able to relate easily to people and to make friends
* knowing what people need and being able to make their lives better
* being generous, caring, and warm
* being sensitive to and perceptive about others' feelings
* being enthusiastic and fun-loving, and having a good sense of humor

What's Hard About Being a Doris
* not being able to say no
* having low self-esteem
* feeling drained from overdoing for others
* not doing things I really like to do for myself for fear of being selfish
* criticizing myself for not feeling as loving as I think I should
* being upset that others don't tune in to me as much as I tune in to them
* working so hard to be tactful and considerate that I suppress my real feelings

Dorises as Children Often
* are very sensitive to disapproval and criticism
* try hard to please their parents by being helpful and understanding
* are outwardly compliant
* are popular or try to be popular with other children
* act coy, precocious, or dramatic in order to get attention
* are clowns and jokers (the more extroverted Dorises), or quiet and shy (the more introverted Dorises)

Dorises as Parents
* are good listeners, love their children unconditionally, and are warm and encouraging (or suffer guilt if they aren't)
* are often playful with their children
* wonder: "Am I doing it right?" "Am I giving enough?" "Have I caused irreparable damage?"
* can become fiercely protective